Today I was talking to a client and she said something that I have heard so many times, from clients, but also from myself.

“I just want to be done.”

She wasn’t talking about a specific project or goal. She was talking about the more general feeling we all get. As in, if “I buy just this one more thing, take this one more class, read one more book, get one more influential person on my side–I will be done. I will have everything I need and want and it will be glorious. Life will be complete and tidy. I won’t be this walking around mess of incompleteness.”
(Sidenote: You’ll notice a lot of this completion is going to be accomplished via acquisition–the acquiring of stuff, knowledge, relationship, and experience. This is what happens when you grow up in a material world. Madonna didn’t mention this because it’s kind of a buzzkill when you’re trying to encourage men to save their pennies for your rainy day. It just occurred me that there might be a sexual component to that wordplay. Hm. Something to Think About.)
Anyways. Let’s get back to the myth of completion.
It reminds me of that thing my friend Emily told me, a quote attributed to the Buddhist, Chögyam Trungpa,

“The bad news is you’re falling through the air, nothing to hang on to, no parachute. The good news is there’s no ground.”

So the bad news first.
You will never be done.
Nope. Not gonna happen. There will never be a moment in your life when you look around and say, “yep, I’ve got everything I ever wanted and all of my needs, desires, and curiosities have been satisfied. I will just sit here until I die, thank you very much.” I’m pretty sure if you did say that, you would be pretty depressed.
The good news?
You’re already complete, in the words of Mark Darcy/Colin Firth, “just the way you are.”

So, the question is–what are you driven to do, get, and be when what’s driving you isn’t a sense of incompleteness, of unfinished mess?

What are you driven to do, get, and be when you are driven by a sense of completeness? Of abiding self-love and confidence that you are exactly where you are supposed to be right now?
Imagine for a moment (just humor me) that you are exactly how you are supposed to be right now. You are not supposed to be better, or faster, or stronger, or smarter, or richer. You are perfect right this second.
You’ve got everything you need.
Now what do you actually want?